28 May, 2017

A Pilgrimage called Life---part 5

More content added on 12th June 2017

On male female relationships

People give practical advice regarding sex---safe methods, avoiding unwanted pregnancy, prevention against diseases etc.

It is good to give practical advice; I once met an ascetic living in a cave in the Himalaya, I asked him about enlightenment, he told me that the first sign of getting enlightened is practical thinking and sound reasoning, so it is good to be practical and give practical advice to others

But I ask this fundamental question that every parent should discuss with their children and every adult who guides youth must ask this question to them---having evolved from lower life forms to the stage of a human being, where we have developed a huge forehead (lower life forms do not have a forehead) and intellect (buddhi) which allows us to discriminate between right and wrong---is sex so very important that we cannot think of anything else, it literary rules our life

Lust rises in youth, rages along its course, and then subsides; (however this is not always the case now a days many aged people are all sexed up, full of passion, the Mahabharat which convey all divine teachings in a story form for todays degraded generation, clearly explains this in the first chapter itself, where at an old age King shantanu fell in love with satyavati and wanted to marry her). But between start and finish much of a lifetime is usually passed away, and it is a sad fact that many people would have achieved so much in their lifetime had they not wasted their precious life in pursuing sexual pleasures / companionship

Desires were placed in a human for a purpose; nature wants humans to procreate

It is very natural to get attracted to the opposite sex; and further why man and woman are attracted towards certain body parts and find them sexy has a scientific reason

Men prefer women with big, round breast and healthy thighs because a woman with healthy thighs can support and take the weight of a healthy baby during pregnancy and big round breast can store more milk for the baby; on the other hand women get attracted to a big genital because a big organ can deposit sperms more deep inside the womb—nature provided this natural tendencies which later took the form of attraction, so there is nothing vulgar in it; it is the theory of sexual selection and this is also the reason why woman are so very choosy in selecting their partners because unlike the male who can produce millions of sperms a woman only produces one egg a month, and it is her God given responsibility to ensure that she produces better and better offspring’s, so she cannot be irresponsible in choosing her partner

However, I quote Paul Brunton “When the mating urge descends on men or women, they develop a temporary but immense capacity for glorifying the beloved person, seeing beauties and virtues which may be quite slight or even non-existent. With the eyes so widely out of focus, nature achieves her purpose with ease”

Food and sex ages a person

Observe how the body of a person gets transformed after an active sex life, a slim body of a youth turns to that of a man, a girl changes into a woman

Two things age you faster----sex and food

The British started doing a survey / census in India from the city of Banaras; they found out that the Hindu widows have a big lifespan

The Hindu widows are left in Banaras to die, then how come they have the biggest lifespan compared to all others? 
The conclusion was that, the Hindu widow is always fasting and given a small quantity of simple food and she does not have an active sex life, the same results were found India wide

So always remember that food and sex ages you and they both are also responsible for lost health and unpleasant diseases

The less you eat and the less you have sex, the healthier you become and I add this also take long walks you will always be healthy

We come across so many old couples, it is even difficult for them to walk, one of the reasons is that they have drained away their vital fluids / energy in enjoyment and are paying the price now

Be very very careful in choosing your partner

Sexual union not only is something operative on the physical plane, but also on the psychic (astral) plane. This psychical union may be harmful to the higher-bred person of the two who are engaged in the intercourse, that means during the process one partner who has a lower spiritual level stands to gain and the other with a higher spiritual level loses

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Sexual promiscuity is dangerous for many reasons; because

(1) The aspirant's karma becomes entangled with the other person's karma.
(2) One becomes psychically infected with low thought-forms hovering in the other person's aura.
(3) We must consider the effects of our actions upon the lives and the character of others. We just cannot dump our lust on someone else. We are to help their evolution, not their retrogression (the process of returning to an earlier state, typically a worse one)
(4) Intercourse with many unevolved types gives a special shock to the nervous systems of those who practise meditation and disintegrates something of their achievements each time.

On prostitution

See how the face, body of a prostitute becomes, how badly her aura is damaged

See the effects of lust, her body turns black

One look at the lady and you can make out that she has collected so many sexual impurities

The person visiting a prostitute also gets a bad destiny

Corinthians 6:12-20 “do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh”

Corinthians 6:15-17, “Don't you realize that your bodies are actually parts and members of Christ? So should I take part of Christ and join Him to a prostitute? Never! And don't you know that if a man joins himself to a prostitute she becomes a part of him and he becomes a part of her? For God tells us in the Scripture that in His sight the two become one person."

The so called tantra love practices are nothing but inferior tantrik sects who have eagerly used the teaching to make their sexual desires appear as holy aspirations and they are held in ill repute by many Indian authorities. They are nothing but a prostitution racket; just relieving the sexual stress, like the medical doctors who invented vibrators almost two centuries ago, when they were interested in a labour-saving device to spare their hands the fatigue they developed giving hand jobs (masturbating) to a steady stream of 19th century ladies who suffered from “hysteria,” a vaguely defined ailment easily recognizable today as sexual frustration.

I quote Dr Annie Besant “We may hope that, as sexual morality becomes more generally recognised, it will be seen that the essence of prostitution lies in the union of the sexes without mutual love; when a woman marries for rank, for title, for wealth, she sells herself as veritably as her poorer and more unfortunate sister; love alone makes the true marriage, love which is loyal to the beloved, and is swayed by no baser motive than passionate devotion to its object, when no such love exists the union which is marriage by law is nothing higher than legalised prostitution: the enforcement on an unwilling man or woman of conjugal rights is something even still lower, it is legalised rape.”

On youth, sex and marriage

I you marry keeping sex in mind you become porn actors only

Present youth understand nothing of sex discipline, they are not taught what virtues are, they have such a casual approach towards sex not realizing that they are corrupting their DNA, they will only bring unworthy souls in this world

It is clearly mentioned in the Bhagwad Gita that when a woman copulates outside marriage she becomes corrupt, the DNA gets corrupted and this results in unworthy, inferior children and the degradation of the entire lineage

But do todays parents realize this? when a child is born the parents subscribe a full financial package to take care of all the financial needs till the child becomes an adult, they give the child the best education, they buy expensive gadgets, but do they implant moral teachings in the child, do they talk to the child about religion, about the purpose of life—I have started writing this series for this reason

It is said that the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, but if you look at the facebook profiles of most girls you see only selfies (a photograph that one has taken of oneself, typically one taken with a smartphone or webcam and shared via social media), what sort of children such a lady will raise

I happened to see this program “Koffee with Karan” on TV (I have disconnected the idiot box {a television set} long ago) the host was chatting with a film star and his wife, he asked the wife about her past boyfriends, the husband quickly said “No less than mine (girlfriends).” And further added “I'm still discovering boyfriends of yours” and all three laughed HA HA HA…………what a generation. Where sexual purity has no meaning

The older generation did it too, but in a discreet manner; the new generation does it openly

Today’s manner less youth are a direct result of the sexual degradation of their parents

The children who would be born to parents whose mating’s are few, whose minds are pure, and whose hearts are aspiring, would be markedly superior in every way.

Sex is for higher purpose

A substance so valuable that it can create another human being must be used in accordance with its value, not squandered in unthinking indulgence.
Sex is noble if you elevate it otherwise one is still in the animal stage of evolution

Those physical and passional conditions which pass for love among the young--with their uncontrollable sensuality, their total unconcern with higher values, their puppet-like copulation--all show that they have still to outgrow the close ties which they still have to the animal stage of evolution.

Sex has become a pass time, nothing to do so have sex, the older generation which should have long retired to spent a life of prayer and meditation and spiritual elevation are so very active in sex  

The system of dowry is such a big curse in India, women have suffered so much, but when the same woman becomes a mother in law she would want a huge dowry from her son’s wife

The virtues in a girl are not considered only the amount of wealth she brings is taken into account as a result characterless girls are given away in marriage, they bring the degraded DNA and bear unworthy children the destiny of the entire family is affected—indeed millions of families have paid a huge price in India when they chose money over virtue

Also, the mothers mostly in northern parts of India have failed to impart a culture into their sons that women should be respected, and taken care of, it is written in the Vedas that where women are worshiped there the God’s dwell.

The common thought is; it is ok, he is a boy, so he has the licence to be irresponsible in his sexual behaviour

How many parents teach their children that in our Vedic culture, we worship small girls who have not reached puberty, we treat them like Goddesses and the boy should have the same attitude towards other girls  

Kahlil Gibran has written this on Children

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday….

So it is clear that one must not interfere in the life of youth but let them go on their own; after all they are a result of the collective consciousness of the world and beyond; but I give this advice to the youth that: -

I am not saying that the path to light and enlightenment is for the impotent

do not shun sex like some schools of thought tell you

The body is not polluted by the presence of sexual organs as some ascetic seems to believe. Nature is wiser than they are. She evolved them in all her wisdom. 

But I keep repeating in my blog that what you need to understand is that love is more profound than lust

And I clearly say this that a person who has a healthy platonic relationship does not long for lust

A pure relationship is much more fulfilling and it elevates you

Do not aim that a girl opens her legs for you; strive to become a man to whom the girl would want to open her heart—then you have lived your life well—and you have indeed walked the pilgrimage called life

As base metals are transmuted to Gold; that is the Alchemy of metals

As dirt is transformed into a fruit; that is the Alchemy of a tree

Be an alchemist and transform lust into love

Like Krishna dancing in abundant joy with the gopies is platonic relations at their best

Enjoy this video

keep fighting the battle against lust never give up, you may fail a thousand times—this is your kurukshetra, the battle field of the Mahabharata where the Lord preached Gita; if you restrain your physical self but keep thinking about it in your mind, it is as bad as having a physical relationship; instead try and elevate your spiritual level, your consciousness, then automatically you will no longer long for lust

It is said that only when God appears he will relieve you of lust ; God resides in you the day you can tune in with yourself you evoke him, so try and find your higher self and you would be liberated 

You can use music to your advantage; listen to your favourite music to deviate your mind--- Pythagoras, the great teacher who was initiated in India is said to have possessed such knowledge of music that he could use it for the controlling of men's wildest passions, and the illuminating of their minds.

Youth who get together may discuss something constructive or spent their time in building some engineering project, instead of talking about sex; in this way a good vibration is created which will certainly help them in life

Lao Tzu said the man of Tao is free from the consciousness of sex.

The act of sex

During sex another power takes over youyou can never be in control of yourself, it is the surrender of the attitude of being in control of oneself

“If tomorrow, women woke up and decided they really liked their bodies, just think how many industries would go out of business.” ~ dr. gail dines

Watch this video; it is truly an eye opener

Almost 70% of pages in the women’s glamour magazine are paid content or advertisements

Models are decked up in makeup and are photoshopped meaning a photographic image is digitally altered using Photoshop image-editing software.

These magazines actually destroy the self-esteem of women

Watch one more beautiful video of a nude artiste-- A woman's body. Beyond the erotic to recognize the divine -- who says that every woman’s body is her biography….ever scar has a story, every wrinkle a testament to a life lived…….

Few more points

There is a feeling of sadness after the sexual act; it is termed as Post-coital tristesse (PCT) or post-coital dysphoria (PCD)

Around 150 AD, the prominent Greek physician Galen wrote, "Every animal is sad after coitus except the human female and the rooster."

A feeling of guilt follows after masturbation

But after a nocturnal emission, informally known as a wet dream; there is no feeling of sadness or guilt, since it is a natural process to relieve tension

A wife can do much more to mar or make man’s life

If one’s family has a history of broken marriages etc. and is unable to find a suitable life partner; such a person must understand very clearly that this is due to the sexual impurities / karma that the lineage has collected, and must try to lead a pure life and accept his or her destiny and be very careful about their behaviour so they do not collect any bad karma

Everyone thinks that solitude is their problem; every one suffers from solitude at some stage or other, but people close their doors and are not ready to come out of it

There is a reason that the female reproductive organs are inside the body and male reproductive organs outside the body

It is wrong that-- spiritual fulfilment / enlightenment is only possible if one denies sex, the true statement is spiritual fulfilment / enlightenment is only possible if one comes out of lust

As per the occult studies of the Zoroastrians: the female sex possesses in her eyes a power nine times more effective than that in a male, and which is known as "Vanthvo Frado",  i.e., one of the five magnetic powers (Frad) present in water in its original, natural and pure state. Owing to the high extent of this Vanthvo-Frado power in a woman, she possesses in herself the art, as it were, of placing in the mouth of the opposite party whatever words she likes. Consequently, a child picks up more easily what is imparted by a female teacher than by a male, this is the reason why a female teacher is by nature more suited than a male for imparting primary training
In the past female members of the US army were effectively used to negotiate with rebel groups to surrender

The forty-eight or in some editions sixty-four postures described in the book on sex love called Kama Sutra, now widely translated and published in the West, are simply forty-eight or sixty-four ways for a man to lower himself to purely animal status. In fact several of them are given animal names by the author.~ Paul Brunton

 “Chastity is not the same as purity, although the two are often confused. The one is a way of outward life; the other a state of inner life.” ~ Paul Brunton

"Chastity is a mind that is completely free from all image making, all the pictures, sensations, which thought has built in its search for pleasure through sex. Then you will find an abundance of energy." ~ Krishnamurti

The man who says, "I love you," too often means, "I want your body."

All the problems in this world are related to over population

One must use the blessing of the Internet to gain knowledge; most people only use the social media to socialize or for entertainment
It is pathetic that over the years, the top searched image on google search in India is of a female porn actor turned film star—there is so much knowledge available on the internet, yet most people only pursue what pleases their senses 

The snake crawling on its belly is as close to the earth as any animal could get. As a symbol this creature stands in ancient scriptures for earthly pleasure. And since there is no pleasure so intense as the sexual one, it has come to stand for that particularly. The snake rearing its head and holding itself upright stands for the overcoming of sexual passion. It is not only a symbol of such mastery but particularly of the power arising from its being diverted toward spiritual knowledge and aspiration.

That aspirant has attained purity who no longer desires any human being but only pure Being itself. Thus he passes from the personal to the impersonal, from passion through penitence and self-discipline to utter tranquillity.

The person who desires true love has not understood its meaning----- True love---- is unconditional---not self-seeking---it can only be given---never expected

We talk of merging with the almighty God, but first are we capable of giving true love; how many times we have stood with the powerful and how many times we have sat with the broken?

We perform puja (the act of worship) at our work place during Diwali, my Christian colleague refused to take part in the ceremony and also refused the prasad (a devotional offering made to a god, typically consisting of sweets /food that is later shared among devotees) saying that his God does not allow this—later on he developed an adulterous relationship with a lady---does his God allow this?

Matthew 5:28 “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit; keep them as pure as possible

An interesting fact

One of the earliest, if not the earliest, home pregnancy tests came from Ancient Egypt. In 1350 BC, women were advised to urinate on wheat and barley seeds over the course of several days; if the wheat sprouted, she was having a girl, and if the barley sprouted, a boy. If neither sprouted, she wasn’t pregnant. The most interesting thing about this test was that it actually worked: In 1963, a laboratory experimented with the wheat and barley test and found that, 70 percent of the time, the urine of pregnant women would cause the seeds to sprout, while the urine of non-pregnant women and men didn’t.
The reason I feel why this test fails 30% today is because of the chemicals present in the food chain and in our bodies

“If you want your wife to be a Goddess, worship her.” ~ Clairette de Longvilliers

Marble sculpture by Bernini named Pluto and Proserpina—compared to this art, today’s modern art is garbage

Kahlil Gibran on Love {from the prophet}

When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden.

For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.

Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.

All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.

But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.

When you love you should not say, "God is in my heart," but rather, "I am in the heart of God."
And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.

Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.

Photos of my home; I am blessed to live in green surroundings in a city

The place of worship

Meditation room

I type my blogs from this laptop

Next article will be on death

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